YWCA Knoxville

On beauty: changing how we think of ourselves and others

2011-10-14T10:56:00.000-07:00

“To be born woman is to know—
Although they do not talk of it at school—
That we must labour to be beautiful.”
--W.B. Yeats

More than money or fancy learning, a woman’s beauty is her capital, and however attractive a woman is, that’s a good indicator of how far she’ll go in life: how well she’ll marry, how beloved her children will be, how close to the glass ceiling she’ll come. Many women have thought some version of this story, but is this really a fair representation of our fair sex? It’s true that some women will have it easy for having grown up into the proportions that are in vogue right now, but so-called beautiful women can have a hard time being taken seriously for their smarts and general competence. Whether a woman is plain or a “knockout,” there are consequences. So what are we going to do about it?

Many women know what it’s like to worry about being upstaged. Say you’re out with your husband, and a younger, thinner woman walks into the room, immediately causing you to feel inferior. Or remember the polished, well-dressed girls from the wealthier families in high school and how exclusive they were, ruling the microcosm of school at the expense of the frumpy girls still hanging onto their baby fat? Harsh judgments about a woman’s physical appearance are frequently woman-to-woman. We’re raised to be very body-conscious, contemplating the proportions of our creamy-skinned and blue-eyed Barbies, and, as we get older, this insecurity translates into cattiness: “Did you see her skirt?” “Do you think I’m prettier than she is?”

Ladies, let’s make a change. It’s too easy to be at a pool party and thank your lucky stars that there’s a more “matronly” figure there than yours. Like men with their strength, we’re stuck in this stereotype of comparison, but the people we’re really hurting with this are ourselves, even if we don’t know it. We’re enforcing the notion that how attractive we are is directly related to how worthy we are of attention, confidence, friendship and love. It may sound silly in writing, but it’s going on all the time.

Regardless of physical features, it’s important to remember the experience of the subjectivity of beauty. Ever known somebody that was physically perfect, but as you got to know them, you realized things about their values that disgusted you, like maybe they drop a few racial slurs and try to get you to join in on their joke? Still impressed by their physicality? Or the sweaty and haggard mom with baby spit-up on her shoulder that helps you find the olives in the grocery store—doesn’t her generosity render her beatific in hindsight? It’s an old cliché that true beauty is on the inside—and maybe this kind of beauty doesn’t help women get ahead in life—but if each of us makes the individual choice to stop comparing ourselves to other women so much and to stop comparing all of us to some abstract ideal, we might all feel better about ourselves and get on better with the women around us in turn.

--Larissa Weaver, YWCA Grant-Writing Intern

Originally from Germany, Larissa Weaver has studied German literature and creative writing at the University of Tennessee, Knoxville. Her areas of interest include equality of education access, prison reform, Queer Theory, knitting, and comparative literature. She lives in Knoxville with her domestic partner Ben, their two dogs—Keiko & Scribbs—and Keaton, the cat.

Ultimate role models

2011-08-12T08:46:00.000-07:00

My mom. My second-grade teacher. My undergraduate thesis advisor. The nonprofit director of my first job out of college. Novelist Alice Walker. Suffragist Alice Paul.

These are just a few of the women who have made a big impact on my life. Some I’ve known intimately and others only on paper.

On August 18, we celebrate the 2011 YWCA Tribute to Women at the Bijou Theatre in downtown Knoxville. This signature event recognizes East Tennessee women who have overcome barriers and helped others overcome—women who embody empowerment, equality, and transformation. The ultimate role models.

One such example is Mary Lou Horner, this year’s recipient of the Lifetime Achievement Award. She became one of Knox County's first female commissioners, headed a local paper, and has served on at least a dozen boards, transforming local politics, business, and media at a time when women’s voices were still confined to the private sphere. Thankfully, Ms. Horner would not be confined, and she paved the way for other women.

Some of us have been lucky to know Mary Lou Horner well, while others have learned from her work or followed in her footsteps. But what happens when you don’t have strong women to guide you? Many YWCA clients have never had positive influences in their lives. As a result, they struggle with low self-esteem, have difficulty trusting people, and lack the tools to make healthy decisions. That’s where the YWCA comes in. We give them those tools and show them their potential. And that’s similar to the job of a mentor.

Exposure to role models and mentoring increases self-efficacy. As Kathy Korman Frey of George Washington University frequently points out, research indicates that we need five mentors for “advice, support, problem-solving, coaching, and networking.” If you don’t have a relationship with a mentor and are having trouble finding one, Frey says written mentoring works too. Take my examples of Alice Walker and Alice Paul. After reading the former’s fiction and learning about the latter’s struggle for the vote, I saw the world, and myself, differently. Or check out Frey’s Hot Mommas, which provides exposure to role models by posting inspiring vignettes from women all over the world.

We all need mentors, and we can all be mentors. You don’t have to be at the top of your career to be a role model. Mentorship is about empowerment, and there is always someone behind you needing a hand. Grab that person and take them along with you!

The YWCA is looking for male and female mentors. If you are interested, please contact Hope Robinson, volunteer coordinator, at hrobinson@ywcaknox.com or 865-523-6126. For more information about the 2011 Tribute to Women or to purchase tickets, please call Danielle Benson at 865-523-6126 or visit our website.

--Sara Baker, YWCA Director of Women's Advocacy and Written Communications

Sara Baker holds an MA in English with Writing Concentration and a BA in English and Religion. Her lifelong commitment to women's issues includes volunteer work with the Alliance for International Women's Rights, American Association of University Women, National Conference on Community and Justice, National Network of Presbyterian College Women, University of Tennessee Women's Coordinating Council, University of Swansea Club W, and Maryville College Sisters in Spirit. Sara has studied African-American women's literature, women's roles in world religions, and the status of women in North Indian culture. Through her work at the YWCA, she researches women's rights, violence against women, women and poverty, and girl empowerment.

Another day, another sex scandal

2011-07-01T13:23:00.000-07:00

There are too many to name—the long list of powerful men who chronically cheat, secretly father children with women other than their wives, sexually harass employees and colleagues, hire prostitutes (including minors and victims of trafficking), and sexually assault women. Not all men have these problems, of course, and not all powerful men, either. But why do some treat women this way? And what happens when women have power?

I’ve been talking to people about this subject lately and received a variety of responses. (Note: These were just casual conversations, not a study.) One person said it’s all about ego and nothing to do with sexism. A few think women are doing the same things but simply aren’t getting caught. I’m figuring those folks were talking more about cheating than prostitution and rape, and, yes, there are still far more men in power than women, so that accounts for at least some of the imbalance, but if loads of women really are behaving as badly, why aren’t they getting caught too?

Most respondents think that powerful men and powerful women behave quite differently—for the most part. I tend to agree, but not because I think there is necessarily a biological cause for this difference. Rather, I think men and women experience power differently because of the ways we are socialized and because we have yet to achieve full equality across the board.

In general, women still have to work harder to get to the top, and once they get there, their positions are often less tenable. I suspect they are less likely to take that power for granted. Sheryl Gay Stolberg writes in The New York Times, “Women have different reasons for running [for office], are more reluctant to do so and, because there are so few of them in politics, are acutely aware of the scrutiny they draw—all of which seems to lead to differences in the way they handle their jobs once elected.”

Women are judged more harshly for their sexual proclivities, so they have more to lose. (If you think double standards like this don’t exist anymore, then welcome to Feminism 101.) As author Erica Jong says, “Women know they won't be protected and that they'll be exposed. And it has to do with how much power men have in society and how little women have.”

We can’t talk about power without talking about ego. Dutch psychologist Joris Lammers, who has studied the relationship between power and confidence, says, “Power leads to this disinhibited sense that you can get what you want and should take risks to get it." As at least one person I spoke with mentioned, narcissism definitely plays a role. But can we blame it all on that and take sexism out of the equation? I’m not so sure. What does it mean when someone spends much of their public life fighting for human rights but treats women like objects in private? Is this not a reflection of institutionalized sexism?

Perhaps we spend too much time worrying about the personal lives of politicians and others in the public eye, but when their personal lives reveal behaviors that demean women—and I’m not talking about simple cheating (men and women cheat in almost equal numbers) but the deplorable actions listed above—I don’t want them making decisions about our economy, our laws, our lives. I’m sure many of these men would maintain that they are not sexist, that they believe in equal opportunity and even actively support it, but when their private actions are fundamentally sexist, I would argue that they are too.

We live in a society that not only tolerates but still promotes a “boys will be boys” attitude. Men in power are often expected to treat women this way. Many powerful men are invited to cheat, introduced to prostitution rings, encouraged to exploit women. This has been the case for thousands of years. It’s insulting to men and demeaning to women. But the fact that we now talk about it openly means it’s changing, however slowly.

What can you do to help it along? Men, pledge to treat women with respect. Recognize that what may be fueling your ego may also be devaluing women. Women, keep fighting for power and don’t let it go to your head.

If you’re a woman in a position of power, we would love to hear your thoughts.

--Sara Baker, YWCA Director of Women's Advocacy and Written Communications

Sara Baker holds an MA in English with Writing Concentration from the University of Tennessee and a BA in English and Religion from Maryville College. Her lifelong commitment to women's issues includes volunteer work with the Alliance for International Women's Rights, American Association of University Women, National Conference on Community and Justice, National Network of Presbyterian College Women, University of Tennessee Women's Coordinating Council, University of Swansea Club W, and Maryville College Sisters in Spirit. Sara has studied African American women's literature, women's roles in world religions, and the status of women in North Indian culture. Through her work at the YWCA, she researches women's rights, violence against women, women and poverty, and girl empowerment.

How girls’ push-up bras bring us all down

2011-05-11T11:42:00.000-07:00

When I was a kid I hated wearing dresses. I wanted nothing more than to live in jeans and a t-shirt, so I could run around, climb trees, and slide into home base. Sure, I played dress-up with my mom’s old clothes, and I could spend hours picking out Barbie’s wardrobe, but I didn’t care what anyone thought of my appearance at nine years old. I didn’t try to look like Barbie in my everyday life because I understood that I was a kid and Barbie was a plastic grown-up who didn’t resemble any actual grown-ups. And I liked being a kid.

Now there are people who look like Barbie (even though they might be more plastic than human), and kids are encouraged to follow suit. Yesterday I heard a small child complaining that a particular dress would make her look fat. I’ve seen string bikinis for toddlers, push-up bras and high heels for seven-year-old girls, insultingly sexual t-shirt slogans, and lots of shorts that stop just above the behind. (Girls, if you’re wondering if you’re hanging out of these shorts, you are!)

A friend of mine was fed up with her tween stepdaughter’s push-up bras, so she took her shopping for more age-appropriate undergarments, only to find that they don’t exist. A quick look at Target’s website shows a wide variety of girls’ demi-bras. This is a type of bra that emphasizes cleavage and allows women to wear low-cut tops. So why do ten-year olds need them? Or sixteen-year olds for that matter?

I don’t know when it became the norm for girls and women of all ages and sizes to wear push-up bras, but we’ve gone far beyond that by sexualizing little girls. Aren’t we a society that abhors pedophilia? Don’t we believe that girls can do anything? That they don’t have to rely on men to provide for them? So why are we pushing them to be sexy at such an early age?

On CNN.com, LZ Granderson blames parents for buying these clothes, and Jennifer Moses has mixed feelings on the subject in the Wall Street Journal. Is it a mother-daughter bonding thing? Are parents acting like best friends instead of parents? Are they living vicariously?

Studies by the American Psychological Association reveal that early sexualization negatively affects cognitive function, eating disorders, low-self esteem, depression, and sexual health in girls. It can ultimately lead to serious social problems, including “an increase in sexism; fewer girls pursuing careers in science, technology, engineering and mathematics (STEM); increased rates of sexual harassment and sexual violence; and an increased demand for child pornography.”

So what can we do? Stop buying these products, for one thing. Check out businesses such as Pigtail Pals, which aims to “redefine girly,” and campaigns like Let Girls Be Girls. More importantly, instead of taking your daughter shopping this weekend, read together. Go to a museum. Balance your checkbook while she does her math homework and say, “Work that quadratic equation, girl!”

Written by: Sara Baker

Sara Baker is the director of outcomes/grant management and the Big Read coordinator for the YWCA Knoxville. She holds an MA in English and Creative Writing from the University of Tennessee and a BA in English and Religion from Maryville College. She has worked as a writer, English instructor, and AmeriCorps VISTA. Sara grew up in Cincinnati, Ohio, and has lived in Philadelphia, Pennsylvania; Swansea, Wales; and Wroclaw, Poland. Her lifelong commitment to women's issues includes volunteer work with the Alliance for International Women's Rights, American Association of University Women, YWCA Knoxville Y-Teens, National Conference on Community and Justice, National Network of Presbyterian College Women, University of Tennessee Women's Coordinating Council, University of Swansea Club W, and Maryville College Sisters in Spirit. Sara has studied African American women's literature, women's roles in world religions, and the status of women in Northern Indian culture. Through her work at the YWCA, she researches issues affecting women, such as homelessness, domestic violence, leadership, and empowerment.

Did you know that strangulation is not a felony?

2011-05-04T11:34:00.000-07:00

In Tennessee strangulation is a misdemeanor, which shocks people every time I say it. But it’s true.

At least 26 states have passed tougher laws regarding strangulation, and many others are following suit. This afternoon the Tennessee Senate Judicial Committee will consider SB 0476, introduced by outgoing Senator Jamie Woodson. The bill “adds attempting or intending to cause bodily injury by strangulation to the definition of aggravated assault.”

Studies show that non-fatal strangulation is a major risk factor for homicide of women. One survey of women who were victims of domestic violence revealed that 68% experienced strangulation from their abuser. Half of the time there are no visible injuries.

It’s possible to survive strangulation, think you’re fine, and then die weeks later because of brain damage due to lack of oxygen and other internal injuries. Symptoms such as difficulty breathing, hoarse voice, coughing, difficulty swallowing, swollen tongue or lips, drooling, nausea, vomiting, hallucinations, headaches, dizziness, and miscarriage may be indications of an internal injury such as swelling, bleeding, fractured larynx, seizures, or pulmonary edema.

Obviously, there are ethical reasons for preventing strangulation, but the financial argument is also compelling.

In 2010, 76% of YWCA Victim Advocacy Program clients were low income or extremely low income, which means they were unlikely to have insurance. Since many would have been on TennCare, strangulation resulting in medical services would be a direct cost to the state. Without the abuser going to prison, in most cases it can be extremely difficult for the victim to leave, which means repeat abuse and repeat medical services. Health care costs not covered by TennCare are an indirect drain on the state because high out-of-pockets costs leave individuals less to spend on products and services, meaning a decrease in sales tax revenue. In 2004, the TN Economic Council on Women estimated Tennessee’s DV-related medical and value of life costs to be $87,157,848.

When one parent kills the other, children are left behind. The minimum cost to place a child in state custody and provide basic counseling and testing is $5000 per month. And the ripple effect is huge. Such children are likely to continue the cycle of violence by becoming victims or abusers themselves, and mental illness and behavioral problems such as school dropout, addiction, and criminal activity are common. Sadly, up to 93% of US youth entering the juvenile justice system annually experienced trauma prior to incarceration (such as witnessing violence or losing a parent) compared to 14-34% among all children. Children in homes where domestic violence occurs are physically abused or seriously neglected at a rate 1500% higher than the national average.

Since strangulation is likely to lead to homicide, it’s important that we look at how murder affects the US economy. A recent Iowa State study shows that the average cost per murder exceeds $17.25 million in terms of victim costs, criminal justice costs, lost offender productivity, and public willingness-to-pay costs.

That’s a mighty hefty community problem, and strangulation is part of it

Written by: Sara Baker, Director of Women's Advocacy and Written Communications

Sara Baker holds an MA in English and Creative Writing from the University of Tennessee and a BA in English and Religion from Maryville College. She has worked as a writer, English instructor, and AmeriCorps VISTA. Sara grew up in Cincinnati, Ohio, and has lived in Philadelphia, Pennsylvania; Swansea, Wales; and Wroclaw, Poland. Her lifelong commitment to women's issues includes volunteer work with the Alliance for International Women's Rights, American Association of University Women, YWCA Knoxville Y-Teens, National Conference on Community and Justice, National Network of Presbyterian College Women, University of Tennessee Women's Coordinating Council, University of Swansea Club W, and Maryville College Sisters in Spirit. Sara has studied African American women's literature, women's roles in world religions, and the status of women in Northern Indian culture. Through her work at the YWCA, she researches issues affecting women, such as homelessness, domestic violence, leadership, and empowerment.

Holiday Shopping on a Budget

2010-12-13T11:49:00.000-08:00

It’s that time of the year again. Time to buy the gifts and spend the money that us college students don’t have. Every year I face the dilemma of how to buy my friends and family great gifts while still being able to afford to eat during the month of January. Believe it or not, there are great ways to save money throughout the month and still give great gifts.

A couple of years ago, my friends and I decided to start doing a Secret Santa Christmas. Secret Santa is a great way to bring everyone together for a good time while only having to buy one gift. This way, it is easier to spend a little bit more money on that one gift for your friend instead of buying a gift for everyone. Secret Santa is fun and affordable and one of the best ways to save money during the holiday season.

Because college students are often times in a hurry to get shopping done, we don’t want to take the time to seek out the discounts and sales going on around town. However, the newspaper and local magazines always have coupons and advertisements for sales that are currently going on. If you take about 20 minutes out of your morning to browse through the paper, it is easy to locate where the good deals are. Also, don’t forget to look on the stores Website. Many stores have amazing online discounts that you can’t find in the store. It is easy to buy in bulk online and, a lot of times, you can find free shipping during the holidays. Another tip that I find helpful when shopping on a budget is to always make a list of what you are looking for before you head to the mall. If you go to the mall without any idea of what you are looking for, it will take more time and the chances of spending more money are very high.

Lately, I have been consumed with “Do It Yourself” blogs. They have awesome ideas and concepts for holiday decorating and gift giving. DIY projects are fun and usually cheaper than buying the finished product in the store. Even if you are not a crafty person, these Websites have step-by-step directions to the projects. Not only are these gifts fun to make and give to people, but by making it yourself, it has more sentimental value attached to it. There is always a feeling of accomplishment after taking the time to make your own gifts to give to family and friends.

Holiday shopping on a budget can be scary but it is do-able, and you can save money without skimping on quality. By taking the extra time to find sales and discounts, you can save a bunch. For great DIY ideas for gifts, visit http://www.creaturecomfortsblog.com or http://www.pepperdesignblog.com. And don’t forget to make your own Christmas cards for everyone!

Devon Turner, YWCA Public Relations Intern
"I am currently a senior at the University of Tennessee and I will receive my Bachelor of Science degree in Communications with a major in Public Relations with a minor in French. I am originally from Charlotte, North Carolina but I have lived in Knoxville for four years. I love to travel around with my friends and family and make memories that will last forever.

When I graduate, I plan to move back to Charlotte for a while then I would love to go explore the West Coast. I love dogs, surrounding myself around good people, and listening to interesting music."

YWCA Tribute To Women Honoree Highlight

2010-11-16T06:19:00.000-08:00

2008 Human Service Tribute Honoree

Name: Loida C. Velázquez
Job Title: Program Director (retired)
Company Name: University of Tennessee

Activities: Board Member United Way of Knoxville; Knoxville Museum of Art Trustee; Board Member Regional American Red Cross Knoxville Area Chapter; Founding Board Member of The Race Relations Center of East Tennessee; Board Member First Tennessee Bank Community Council; Member Nine Counties One Vision Diversity and Human Relations Committee; HOLA: Hora Latina President (2005-2006); Chair Education Committee 2008; Faculty Advisor Lambda Theta Alpha Sorority, UT Chapter.
Affiliations and Honors: Selected Honorary Chair for the YWCA 2007 Race against Racism,; Leadership Knoxville 2004 graduate; Received Service Award after completing three year as the President of the HEP and CAMP Association 1998-2001; Outstanding Adult Education Student 1994; Received the 1994 National Rural Education Dissertation Award.

Loida C. Velázquez, Ed.D.

Loida C. Velázquez professional life has been dedicated to the service of marginalized populations. It started in her native Puerto Rico with her participation in the establishment of one of the first Head Start programs in the island and culminated at the University of Tennessee as the Principal Investigator and Project Director of a federally-funded program serving migrant and seasonal farmworkers in North Carolina, South Carolina and Tennessee. In between, there were stints as a counselor and Vocational Manager at the Knoxville Job Corp Center and as the East Tennessee Coordinator for the state agency providing advocacy to people with disabilities. A member of the first wave of Latinos settling in the South, she naturally assumed the role of leader and role model to the new immigrants populating the region. A graduate of Leadership Knoxville Class of 2004, she in turn prepared leaders within the Latino community as coordinator for the UT Institute for Public Service Leadership Plenty classes in 2006 and 2007. But the role that she enjoys best is that of grandmother because it gives her the opportunity to connect her 5 grandchildren with her Latino culture.

Living a healthy lifestyle during your college years

2010-11-09T10:22:00.000-08:00

In college, it becomes increasingly hard to maintain a daily exercise schedule and a healthy diet. Females are constantly being faced with pressures to look good and be in good physical shape. I think the question every woman faces, including myself, is how do you find time and money to eat healthy and work out while facing the everyday challenge of classes, schoolwork, and a job?

It is so easy to hit the snooze button on your alarm clock in the morning, but I find that when I get up early in the morning to work out, I have more energy and I am generally happy the rest of the day. While sleeping in everyday is tempting, it usually leaves you feeling lethargic and is even harder to get out of bed.

A good work out does not have to be running five miles with the track team. Going on a brisk walk for thirty minutes around your apartment complex or around a local park is all you need. Anything to get my blood flowing and raise my heart beat a little always makes me feel better. Also, as you get into a routine with this, you can easily work your way up to running a few miles instead of walking.

You should also set attainable goals for yourself, such as, only working out three days a week then working up to four, five, even six days. It is always important to let your body rest at least one day a week, so choose your favorite day to be lazy and don’t work out!

Now to the fun part, food! First things first: stop eating out every day. This will not only help you save tons of money, but it will decrease the amount of calories you unknowingly intake. Go grocery shopping and stock up on delicious, healthy food. Buy things that you know you will want to eat later. What I like to do is buy a bag of frozen chicken breast, put them all in individual baggies, and sauté the chicken with vegetables and my favorite sauce for dinner.

Don’t underestimate the importance of breakfast. Breakfast jump-starts your metabolism and gives you energy for the rest of the day. Cereal, oatmeal, scrambled eggs and fruit are all tasty options for breakfast that will easily satisfy your breakfast craving and get your metabolism going.

Keeping a healthy lifestyle in college can definitely be a challenge but I think that with these easy tips, you can work your way into a good routine that will be manageable through your college years. You should also check out this website that I found specifically for women’s health: http://www.youngwomenshealth.org/college101.html.

Are We Stepping into ‘The Age of Women’?

2010-10-27T10:27:00.000-07:00

Are We Stepping into ‘The Age of Women’?

After a long history of inequality, women may surpass men afterall

While women have struggled for centuries to have equality with men, some wonder if women will surpass men in modern postindustrial society. The question, “What if equality isn’t the end point?” was posed by Hanna Rosin in a provactive article in The Atlantic Monthly. According to Rosin, for the first time in U.S. history, women became the majority of the workforce earlier this year.

Legendary biologist Ronald Ericsson, who’s claim to fame is the creation of the first scientifically prove method for choosing the sex of a child, said people are now requesting children of the female sex, a dramatic shift in age-old human history. Ericsson said, “Women live longer than men. They do better in this economy. More of ‘em graduate from college. They go into space and do everything men do, and sometimes they do it a whole lot better. I mean, hell, get out of the way- these females are going to leave us males in the dust.”
The shift in gender preferences is not just in the U.S. Rigid patriarchal societies, such as South Korea, have seen a rapid and immense advancement in women in the workforce. Where women were once ostracized for not bearing sons, daughters seem to now hold the cards to success.

Rosin brings up a trying question: what if the modern, postindustrial economy is simply more congenial to women than to men? Moreover, what if the economics of the new era are better suited to women? Currently, women dominate the majority of job categories projected to have the most growth in the next decade.

You can access Rosin’s full-length July 2010 article in the archives on The Atlantic’s website. She delves into stereotypes and trends, all while posing some good food for thought.

Written by: Katherine Neunaber, YWCA Senior Public Relations Intern

Source: http://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2010/07/the-end-of-men/8135/

Racism in Staffing of Essence's Fashion Director: Yes or No?

2010-07-27T18:03:00.000-07:00

The traditionally Black magazine, Essence, has hired a White Fashion Director, Elliana Placas. Not a big deal? Many of the loyal readers think it is. Fashion media personality Najwa Moses asked, "How can a White woman dictate and decide what style and beauty is for the Black Woman?" according to a Huffington Post article.

Is this an issue of racism? Or are there grey areas to be considered? Tell us what you think.

Read the whole article: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2010/07/27/essence-white-fashion-dir_n_661168.html

Double Beauty Standards

2010-07-19T17:45:00.000-07:00

When was the last time you saw a fit, attractive man with a chubby and witty wife on a TV sitcom? Do you ever wonder why women in the spotlight are expected to be skinny, beautiful and charming? Why aren't men expected to hold the same beauty standards as women? It seems our society is obsessed with ideal female beauty, while standards for men fall short.

Newsweek published an interesting article discussing this very issue. Playfully written, the article goes into a set of grooming "rules" for men. Weekly forearm waxing, tummy tucks and ab work, heel or leg extenders for short guys and many more entertaining yet unsettlingly accurate points are addressed for the men's new "rules."

Beauty maintenance is just one more aspect about gender inequality in society today. Though not as serious of an issue as others, it holds as an interesting discussion.

Read the full Newsweek article: http://www.newsweek.com/2010/07/19/man-up.html

Swedish feminist group burns 13K in pay gap protest

2010-07-17T12:33:00.000-07:00

A feminist Swedish group put fire to 100,000 kronor, or $13,000, at a barbeque. This radical protest against unequal pay for men and women caused quite a stir last week. The money represented the gap of money earned per minute between women and men in Sweden.

Though the money was donated by an advertising agency, was this the best way to make a stand against gender equality in the workplace? Would there have been a better way to use the donated money? Tell us what you think.

BBC News' article:
http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/10526907

Read what feministing.com says:
Swedish feminist group burns 13K in pay gap protest

Feministing.com

2010-07-15T14:48:00.000-07:00

Check out one of our favorite blogs, www.feministing.com/ for a witty and enlightening read. The blog features a "What We Missed." which enables quick and easy perusing of important issues in the news. Feministing.com offers interesting and fresh commentary on relevent issues to women and women's rights across the globe.

Inspiration for Women

2010-07-13T11:12:00.000-07:00

In honor of the upcoming Tribute to Women annual event on August 19th, where 10 honorees will be celebrated for their outstanding achievements in the work place and volunteer capacity, here are some inspirational quotes from outstanding women in history:

"Nobody can make you feel inferior without your permission." -Eleanor Roosevelt (picture)

"Women are the real architects of society." -Harriet Beecher Stowe

"A woman is like a teabag. It's only when she's in hot water that you realize how strong she is."

-Nancy Reagan

We look forward to celebrating the achievements of the 2010 YWCA Knoxville Tribute to Women honorees at the Bijou Theatre on August 19, 2010. For more information regarding tickets to the event, please visit our web-site http://www.ywcaknox.com/

Pregnancy Health: The importance of staying fit for you and your baby

2010-06-13T17:17:00.000-07:00

Though many mothers-to-be experience common health problems during pregnancy, exercise can help alleviate those very problems. It improves circulation and prevents back pain by toning and building muscles to support your tummy. Rule out issues that stem from circulation too: constipation, hemorrhoids, varicose veins, leg cramps and ankle swelling.

Regain some lost energy with regular exercise. A strengthened endurance will help you get through the day easier. It will also ensure a better sleep at night, too.

Scared of those mood swings? Exercise heightens your mood and will help you feel better about yourself (even as your tummy grows!)

Gaining weight is okay in pregnancy. But keep an eye on your weight gain. Experts warn mothers of the harder risk to lose the baby weight if you gain more than 25-35 pounds during pregnancy.

YWCA Knoxville offers a "Baby Bump" class for mothers before and after pregnancy. Led by Abigail Hallmark, this exercise class is held on Saturdays from 4:00 PM to 5:00 PM. Call (865) 523-6126 for more information.

For more information on pregnancy health, check out http://www.americanpregnancy.org/. The site offers great insight into all of your questions and concerns for your pregnancy.

The UVA Murder: Dating Abuse is a Ticking Bomb

2010-05-19T08:35:00.001-07:00

The UVA Murder: Dating Abuse is a Ticking Bomb

Found a commentary on UVA's Yeardley Love's tragic and brutal murder by her boyfriend. The blog by The New Agenda aims to be "a voice for all women." It calls dating advice a "ticking bomb." Are there ways we can prevent such tragedies in the future?

Almost one in three teens state they have been victims of some sort of dating abuse. The New Agenda urges people to take action after this grief. Check out the link above to read the entire blog entry.

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What does "feminism" mean to you?

2010-05-15T08:25:00.000-07:00

The term "feminism" generally holds a negative connotation in people's minds today. People associate it with radical and aggressive behavior. However, it doesn't have to mean that at all. The definition, according to Merriam Webster Dictionary, seems pretty cut and dry:

fem·i·nism \fe-mə-ˌni-zəm\
1 : the theory of the political, economic, and social equality of the sexes
2 : organized activity on behalf of women's rights and interests

So, how can you change the meaning of feminism? How can you spread the positivity of women's equality without seeming crazy?

YWCA Knoxville strives to further the empowerment of women through positive efforts and work in the community. The issue of equality does not mean a gender against another gender. Through equality, men and women can achieve higher success through comradery. "Feminism" does not have to mean you are a radical for your beliefs. Instead, make it a part of your everyday life and help spread the positivity of what this concept entails.

Suffering from allergies? Knoxville's reigns with worst allergy index

2010-05-08T10:28:00.000-07:00

According to the Asthma and Allergy Foundation of America, Knoxville has consistently been in the top 10 worst allergy-prone cities in America. Often as No. 1, Knoxville delivers all of the factors in the ranking of allergy indexes: pollen score, how much allergy medicine used per patient, and the number of board-certified allergists per patient.

Allergist Dr. Robert Overholt is quoted in a CNN Health article on Knoxville's pollen count, claiming it has already had counts above 6,000 particles per cubic meter. This is caused from an abundance of vegetation and excess of moisture in the air.

So are your allergies driving you nuts? Several perscriptions and over-the-counter medicines can help you be rid of your stuffy nose and nasty cough. Little efforts like keeping windows closed will help lessen the exposure to pollen.

Here is Asthma and Allergy Foundation of America's Top 10 Worst Places to Have Allergies:

1. Knoxville, Tennessee

2. Louisville, Kentucky

3. Chattanooga, Tennessee

4. Dayton, Ohio

5. Charlotte, North Carolina

6. Philadelphia, Pennsylvania

7. Greensboro, North Carolina

8. Jackson, Mississippi

9. St. Louis, Missouri

10. Wichita, Kansas

Check out CNN Health's article for more: http://www.cnn.com/2010/HEALTH/04/09/spring.allergies/index.html?hpt=Sbin

Photo taken from http://evolvedc.com/blog/2008/04/fitness_works_alternative_alle.html

Who is Phyllis Wheatley?

2010-05-04T07:38:00.000-07:00

Phyllis Wheatley was born in 1753 in Gambia, Senegal. Enslaved by age 8, she was brought to America in 1761 aboard a slave ship, The Phillis, the root of her name. She was then bought by Wheatley family in Boston, Massachusetts. The Wheatleys taught her to read and write. She became and educated woman and enjoyed writing poetry in her free time.

She became the first African American woman to become a published writer in September 1773. Wheatley was given her freedom in October of 1773 as a result of her popularity and success as a poet. Her poem celebrating George Washington gained her notable attention and respect. Wheatley was legally freed in 1778 when her master, John Wheatley, died. Her commendable strength and courage while remaining true to herself continues to inspire women today.

In 1920, dedicated community volunteers opened YWCA Knoxville's East Knoxville community center after her. The Phyllis Wheatley Center was opened on Thanksgiving Day at 125 East Vine Avenue. The center moved in 1943 and again in 1962 to its current location at South Cruze Street to accommodate the growth and progress in the community.

Today, churches gather for worship and a variety of groups and organizations are able to meet for events. A free After-School Program for at-risk children is available, offering tutoring, mentoring, sports and artistic opportunities and nutritional education. The Summer Day Camp welcomes families to enjoy the community with safe and constructive fun. The center also offers seniors a place to gather weekly for lunch, exercise, education and socialization.

Through the contributions of a dedicated staff, volunteers, and community collaborations, the Phyllis Wheatley Center is making a difference in the Knoxville area and in the lives of those they touch.

Phyllis Wheatley Center's to Commemorate 90 Years of Service

2010-05-04T07:29:00.000-07:00

The Phyllis Wheatley Center, a branch of the YWCA Knoxville which benefits East Knoxville, the Greater Knoxville and Knox County, will hold a Block Party on June 19, 2010. To commemorate 90 years of service, the Phyllis Wheatley Center announces the Ninety Notable Moves Forward Campaign.

The community is invited to attend the Block Party and learn more about the campaign. The campaign encourages individuals, families, groups, organizations and community partners to join together and provide aid to the center in efforts to achieve "Ninety Notable Moves." With the incredible support from the community, the Phyllis Wheatley Center strives to accomplish this goal which will provide enhanced, innovative and effective service to the Greater Knoxville Community.

The Phyllis Wheatley Center asks you: are you helping your community reach its best potential? We invite you to attend the Open House and learn more about what you can do. Your support will help further the positive efforts of the YWCA Knoxville- eliminating racism and empowering women.

10 Simple Ideas to Eliminate Racism - YWCA USA

2010-04-25T16:03:00.000-07:00

YWCA USA offers 10 simple ideas to eliminate racism. Think before you speak, be a role model and explore the unfamiliar are just a few easy ways to promote life without racism. Follow the link below to read more.

Are you making these simple efforts to eliminate racism in your life?

10 Simple Ideas to Eliminate Racism - YWCA USA

Happy Earth Day! Did you choose organic?

2010-04-22T18:25:00.000-07:00

According to Maria Rodale, chairman and CEO of Rodale Inc., publisher of Women's Health, choosing to buy organic foods can improve your health and the environment. While eliminating toxic chemicals where the food is grown, you're supporting locally grown foods and promoting a healthier planet. Rodale says that organic farming can actually slow global warming, as well.

Conventional farming uses chemicals that are known to cause many health problems, including allergies, asthma, diabetes, obesity and more. According to Rodale, you can lessen your risk of many serious health conditions by switching to organic foods.

"Organic foods are grown without any artificial chemical fertilizers, pesticides, herbicides, fungicides and insecticides, sewage sludge (which often includes toxic pharmaceuticals and cleaning supplies), or GMOs (genetically modified organisms)," Rhodale explains. "If it's an animal, it is fed organic food and raised without the use of artificial growth hormones, antibiotics or GMOs."

For more information about buyng organic, read the rest of Women's Health Magazine's article http://www.womenshealthmag.com/life/maria-rodale

Who said walking wasn't a workout?

2010-04-15T13:25:00.000-07:00

We all know that it can be hard to get the ball rolling with a fitness routine. Walking is a simple adjustment to your daily routine that can benefit your fitness and overall health tremendously.

According to the National Women's Health Resource Center, Inc., you can reduce your risk for coronary heart disease by 65% by briskly walking regularly. Brisk walking (a 15-minute mile or 4 mph) can burn nearly as many calories as jogging for the same distance.

Walking burns fat, boosts your immunity and energy and relieves stress. While having a low impact on your back, it can be a great way to work out without straining your body. Not only does walking increase your muscle toning, it strengthens bones too! It can be beneficial at any speed, but swifter paces have a more effective result on your overall leg strenght. Finally, try to incorporate big arm swings. This will increase your walking pace and cardio level.

So next time you talk yourself out of going to a workout class, make an effort to increase the amount of walking in your daily routine. Your body will notice the change!

Inspired? Get a YWCA gym membership for only $40/yr. With a variety of fitness classes available and an open gym, you can be on your way to an improved figure. Call (865)523-6126 for more information.

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Kiera Knightley's PSA on Domestic Violence (UK)

2010-04-08T11:52:00.000-07:00

Kiera Knightley starred in this public service announcement in 2009 for Women's Aid, a UK charity. The video features an extremely graphic domestically violent scenario. Does the public service announcement reach its goal to shed light on domestic violence? Are more public service announcements necessary like this one? Is the UK eliminating domestic violence with more direct awareness?
Please join the discussion and leave a comment. "2 women die from domestic violence a week" the public service announcement states. By starting the conversation, you can help save lives. For more scary statistics and more on UK's national domestic violence support charity, go to www.womensaid.org.uk/

Domestic violence themes found in popular songs

2010-03-30T06:45:00.000-07:00

Anyone would admit that domestic violence is a dangerous issue plaguing many relationships. So why do popular artists sing about it? Many chart-topping hits contain violent scenarios and themes. A few popular examples:

"Halloween"- Dave Matthews Band

"Down by the River"- Neil Young

"Kiss With a Fist"- Florence + the Machine

"Delia Gone"- Johnny Cash

"M.E.M.P.H.I.S. (Makin' Easy Money Pimpin' Hoes in Style)"- The Disco Biscuits
"Papa Johnny Road"- Widespread Panic

"Stan"-Eminem

"Getting Better"- The Beatles

"Black Eyes Blue Tears"-Shania Twain

"Janie's Got a Gun"- Aerosmith

"Peace Frog"- The Doors

"Can You Control Yo Hoe?"- Snoop Dogg

These songs range in genre and style, so odds are pretty high you have enjoyed their music. While being widely popular, many of these artists are aware of their influence over their fans. Are these songs meant to teach a lesson against domestic violence? Or are they glamorizing it?

Continuing to make history: Speaker Nancy Pelosi

2010-03-23T07:45:00.000-07:00

Nancy Pelosi made history in November 2002 when House Democrats elected her to be the first woman to lead a major political party. She was elected the first Speaker of the House of Representatives in 2007. While in her second term as Speaker of the House, Pelosi continues to make history.

With her strong leadership, Pelosi has proved to unify her Democratic Party and has helped pass important legislation. Pelosi has worked with President Obama and legislative efforts for the American Recovery and Reinvestment Act and the recent Healthcare Reform Bill.

According to a congressional scholar at the Brookings Institution, Thomas Mann, “She's probably gained the reputation of one of the strongest and most effective speakers in decades.”

With all of this talk about the new Healthcare Reform Bill, you might be looking for answers about the goals of the Democratic Party. For more information about Speaker of the House Nancy Pelosi and the 111th Congress, go to www.speaker.gov/

Kick off Women's History Month by sharing some inspiration

2010-03-01T09:15:00.000-08:00

We heard their biographies in history classes in high school, but maybe we have not realized how much appreciation they really deserve. So, to kick off Women's History Month, here are quick bios of three incredible women.

Maya Angelou, one of the most famous African American authors of the twentieth century. Over the span of her career, she expressed her talents through her acting, directing, poetry, screenwriting, singing, dancing and more. Her autobiography "I Know Why the Caged Bird Sings" exemplified the self-determined journey of a young woman who overcame rape and served as a civil rights activist.

Rosa Parks, dubbed the "Mother of the Civil Rights Movement." As segregation laws forced compliance around the country, Parks refused to give up her seat on a public bus in December of 1955. Her defiance with this law marked the start of the Civil Rights Movement. Parks rallied a boycott, lasting 381 days and thus causing the overturn of segregation laws.

Ella Fitzgerald, "The First Lady of Jazz." Fitzgerald was one of the most famous singers of the twentieth century. She is known for her huge role in the emergence of jazz. Her unparalleled talent earned her immense popularity as she recorded around 2,000 songs in her lifetime.

For more biographies of influential African-American women, check out http://www.biography.com/blackhistory.

Teen Dating Abuse in the Limelight: Rihanna and Chris Brown

2010-02-25T06:06:00.000-08:00

It's nearly impossible to not have heard of Rihanna and Chris Brown's domestic violence scandal. About.com's Linda Lowen blogs a great entry about the incident, explaining that this high-profile case brings teen dating abuse out in the open. Check it out:
Rihanna and Chris Brown Bring Teen Dating Abuse and Domestic Violence Out in the Open

Domestic Violence in the Media: effective and supportive?

2010-02-23T09:34:00.000-08:00

This is an advertisement for the Women's Aid Federation in England. As the national domestic violence charity, Women's Aid runs some pretty unsettling advertisements. However, its effectiveness cannot be denied. "What will it take to get people talking about domestic abuse?"

The following is a victim's entry on community.feministing.com's blog. After being in an abusive relationship in the past, she says she continues to suffer, and the media isn't helping the cause.

The victim writes, "The media both locally and nationally, often sensationalize graphic incidents in order to gain viewer ratings. The media also marginalizes victims, mirroring and in some cases creating, the notion that victims of domestic violence must have done something to deserve the abuse. There have been several incidents in which reports dehumanized a victim of abuse, substantiating the criminal act committed by the one in power (usually a male), by casting the victim in a negative light." Read more of what she says: Domestic Violence, Athletics, and the Media

Is the media deterring from the efforts to diminish domestic violence? Does the media sensationalize the victims, furthering their suffering? How do we get around this?

By spreading awareness of the immensity of this issue, you can help make people realize that domestic violence is NEVER okay. By gaining more awareness, domestic violence can be put further in a negative light, while offering more and more support for its victims.

February: Teen Dating Violence Awareness Month

2010-02-17T16:11:00.000-08:00

According to an ABC News story, 80 percent of teens know a dating abuse victim. In the same study, nearly one in three teens said they had received sexual or physical abuse or threats. The story goes on to say the economic recession has made this high level of abuse worse.

Has the economic recession prompted teens to act more aggressively and abuse their significant other? Check out the news story below.
Study: High Numbers of Teen Dating Abuse - ABC News

What can we do about this alarming trend?

After Congress dubbed February as Teen Dating Violence Awareness Month, more national focus has been placed on this dangerous problem. Government representatives, public officials, advocates, service providers, schools, parents and youth are all asked to join in programs and activities to promote awareness and prevention of teen dating violence. For more information about Teen Dating Violence Prevention Project, you can visit http://www.teendvmonth.org/ This Web site offers ways you can spread awareness in your community.

We want to hear from you! Tell us how you've made an impact in your community and inspire others to join in the prevention of relationships' emotional and physical abuse.

Photo taken from http://www.dosomething.org/. Check this Web site to find facts about dating abuse and signs you're in an abusive relationship.

Women Empowered in Winter Olympics

2010-02-15T13:02:00.000-08:00

Now that the Olympics kicked off Saturday, we're all enjoying the exciting winter events. Men and women compete for the gold as they represent their countries. However, did you know that in the first Winter Olympics in 1924, women were able to compete in only two events? Women's empowerment has come a long way since then. Now, in the 2010 Vancouver Winter Olympics, women compete in 13 of the 15 total events.

You can see this photo and more featuring the women athletes of this year's Winter Olympics on NYDailyNews.com's "The Women of the Vancouver Winter Olympics" feature. http://www.nydailynews.com/sports/more_sports/galleries/hottest_female_athletes_of_the_2010_winter_olympic_games_in/hottest_female_athletes_of_the_2010_winter_olympic_games_in.html

Women's equality in sports is just one aspect in the progress of the empowering of women.

Interested in ways you can help the cause through sports? Women's Sports Foundation offers great resources concerning women in sports and news on current issues and research. Grants, scholarships, tools and tips are some of the features their Web site has to offer. Make sure to check it out! http://www.womenssportsfoundation.org/Home.aspx

Feeling Helpless as a Victim of Domestic Violence

2010-02-04T07:29:00.000-08:00

According to Amnesty International, one out of every five women is a victim of domestic violence. Their advertisement is featured with a few others, all stating their messages in a simple and clear stance.

One of YWCA's core goals is the effort to eliminate domestic violence. Check out Amnesty International's advertisement and tell us your take on its effectiveness.

http://www.smashingapps.com/2009/03/20/31-masterpieces-of-creative-and-clever-advertising-concepts.html

Is the intended anti-domestic violence message strong? Does it leave you wondering, what can I do about it? A feeling of helplessness when a victim of domestic violence does not need to be the answer for you or a loved one.

For more information about YWCA Knoxville's transitional housing for domestic violence victims, go to www.ywcaknox.com. YWCA Knoxville currently has five VAP advocates working with the Knoxville Police Department in efforts to diminish domestic violence. The VAP makes phone calls to victims, makes personal contacts with victims, hosts weekly-ongoing support groups, and assists in Orders of Protection. The program is the only court advocacy non-shelter program and has advocates in criminal and civil courts.

If you or a loved one is a victim of domestic violence, don't feel alone or helpless. YWCA has branches across the globe in 122 countries. By striving to eliminate domestic violence through support and awareness, a better future can be possible.

World YWCA: Haiti Update / World YWCA and Member Associations News / YWCA News / Home - World YWCA

2010-02-02T15:26:00.000-08:00

The tragic earthquake in Haiti caused World YWCA to immediately seek contact with the YWCA of Haiti in support for its members, families and friends. A call for support of donations and immediate relief assistance was made and funds channelled through YWCA's ecumenical partners and through the Red Cross. The importance in support for women and girls suffering from HIV and for survivors of violence remains a forefront mission for YWCA. Reconstruction of communities in Haiti is imperative to continue assistance to victims of domestic violence and other horrors.

World YWCA has established information sharing relationships with other organizations directly related to their efforts, such as the Alliance of Youth CEOs, GBV in Humanitarian Crisis Cluster (International), ACT International and more. YWCA members have been able to make alternative living arrangements for some of their immediate families, but the majority still need support and promises of safety. The recovery of communities is the first step to ensuring safety and stability back in Haiti after this great tragedy. Currently, YWCA members in Haiti are engaging the community response efforts around the clock.

World YWCA continues to request growing support and capacity building for the recovery and reconstruction of the country.

Read the full article, featured on World YWCA's Website:

World YWCA: Haiti Update / World YWCA and Member Associations News / YWCA News / Home - World YWCA

Benefits of Pregnancy Exercise prompts Baby Bump Fitness class at YWCA

2010-02-02T15:05:00.000-08:00

Benefits of Pregnancy Exercise: The Benefits of Pregnancy Exercise

Research indicates that exercise can improve chances of conception, reduce labor time, improve mother/baby outcomes and reduce recovery time after birth. According to the article above, the benefits of pregnancy exercise are endless. Everyday symptoms of pregnancy are lessened with consistent physical activity. The article lists benefits such as improved posture, increased energy and stamina, reduced constipation and bloating, better sleep and more.

YWCA recognizes the importance of these pregnancy related issues and now offers a Baby Bump Fitness Class. The class includes a Water Aerobics session and a Land Fitness session to accommodate all fitness levels. Each class is designed to benefit Planning, Pregnant or Planning mothers.

The class is taught by a certified birth doula, Abigail Hallmark. More information about the ideology behind birth doulas can be found on her Website, http://www.hallmarkdoula.com/

YWCA offers Baby Bump Fitness: Water Aerobics on Tuesdays and Thursdays at 6:30-7:30 PM and Baby Bump Fitness: Land Fitness on Saturdays at 4:00-5:00 PM For more information about the Baby Bump Fitness class, call (865) 523-6126. YWCA members pay $2.50/class and nonmembers pay $5.00/class.

2010-01-21T14:45:00.000-08:00

The YWCA Race was such a success! Despite ridiculously low temperatures days earlier, all worries were cast to the wind on Saturday. We couldn't have asked for a better day for the race!
Over 400 people participated, coming from all age groups. Individuals and organized teams enjoyed refreshments as they collected their racing numbers and enjoyed the gospel choir's performance. Volunteers were everywhere too, really creating an overall enjoyable atmosphere. A silent auction, a raffle, some encouraging words from Honorary Chair Representative Joe Armstrong, and great food wrapped up the day.
Growing support for the YWCA's cause of eliminating racism is what events like the race are all about. So many smiling faces everywhere illustrates the positive impact that our efforts aim to achieve.

Thanks for all of the support, participation, and volunteering!

Race Against Racism 5k and 1 Mile Walk

2010-01-09T14:24:00.000-08:00

Most hate crimes in the United States happen as a result of racism targeted upon victims. The YWCA Knoxville works to fulfill their mission of empowering women through diversity and eliminating racism. Every year, the YWCA Knoxville holds a 5k and 1 mile walk to promote a positive anti-racism stance in the community. Individuals and teams register for the annual event, numbering over hundreds of participants. This event successfully unites the Knoxville community and is a fun and inspiring way to promote a positive mindset.

2010's Race Against Racism is being held on Saturday, January 16th at the Phyllis Wheatley Center off of Cruze Street in downtown Knoxville.

Individuals and teams are encouraged to participate! Make a difference and join other members of the community in this positive effort to eliminate racism. Every volunteer makes a difference! For more information about registration, visit the YWCA Knoxville's website at www.ywcaknox.com or come into the downtown center at 420 West Clinch Avenue.